Eight years with Maty Bombay

Wedding day, 2006

Maty and I were married 8 years ago today, in the lobby of the Lloyd Center Doubletree Inn.

Last year, on July 9th, Maty left Portland and me bound for Dakar, Senegal to visit her family. I wrote her this letter and gave it to her on the drive to the airport, with instructions not to read it until she was in the air.

My dearest love,
Words cannot express how much I love you. You are the light of my life and I can never be complete without you.
I am very happy that you can go to Senegal to see your family. I wish them love and respect.
I will miss you every day you are gone and I will never stop thinking about you. Always remember that I love you. Never forget that.
I will be happy for you while you are in Africa. And every day I will look forward to the day when we will be together again.
You are my love. You are my life.
Your loving husband,
Dade 

Maty would be gone for 37 long days. It was the longest separation we've endured in the 8 years since we've been married.

They say that once you've developed a taste for caviar, you can never go back to canned sardines. The truth of that adage was brought home for me in the time she was gone.

Eight years! Can you believe it, honey? Eight years!

Feeding the hippos in Zinairé, 2007

Thai food with the families, 2008

Hangin' at the house with Sister Chae, 2009

At a friend's birthday party, 2010

Happy couple, 2011

Anniversary dinner, 2012

Anniversary dinner, 2013

Going strong 8 years later, 2014

Movie review: Her

Spike Jonze must have landed some influential funders for his newest effort, "Her." This flick has benefited from a load of promotion. And I'm sure it will do very well at the box office.

And why not? Given the contemporary subject matter the movie is bound to pry away the attention of thousands of forlorn and bewildered souls from their iPad screens. We are legion.

The film stars Joaquin Phoenix as Theodore Twombly, a lonely writer living in Los Angeles in the near future. Theodore is wrestling with despair. His job is to write customized love letters for clients (much like Gabriel Garcia Márquez's Florentino Ariza). Love seems to flourish all around Theodore, but his own life is desolate and bleak. When he discovers an advanced operating system that is designed to conform to the desires of its user (imagine a highly-advanced Siri), things seem to brighten up. The operating system behaves like an artificial intelligence, developing a personality. Theodore's perfect companion, "Samantha," is born. A love relationship develops between them.

The attraction of this film, frankly, was its pathos. Theodore is a character toward whom it is easy to identify in this techno-isolated society. I went to the film expecting an examination of the relationship between those two human but often contradictory needs: companionship and identity. The idea of a love relationship evokes longing. The reality of a love relationship can be smothering. This conundrum is certainly worthy of examination and today's hyper-technical diversions seem a perfect lens through which to view it.

But the film just doesn't work. As the story unfolds, the relationship between Theodore and Samantha comes more and more to resemble "normal" human relationships: mismatched expectations, hurt feelings, insensitive remarks... you get the picture. Other than Samantha's ethereal-ness, there's nothing that distinguishes the relationship as unique. That may have been Jonze's point, but I don't think so. He gestures at the birth of artificial intelligence as a new life form, but it seems like an escape valve for a story that has nowhere to go.

Hats off to Joaquin Phoenix. To the extent that the film succeeds, it is because of his touching performance. And there are some artful montages throughout.

But the film is based on a far-fetched premise. And in order for something like that to succeed, the story has to be nailed down in all four corners.

Sorry, Spike. Thumbs down from me.

River (Pt. XVII)

Jonah holds forth:

El Cocodrillo led them up a muddy switchback that climbed from the bottom lands into the wooded hills. After him came Eligius, disarmed and despondent. The tatterdemalion mob, hooting and chattering like a band of unruly monkeys, followed.

"Given what you've no doubt heard about me, I can't blame you for being afraid," said Cocodrillo. He waved his arms as he spoke, the plume on his hat bobbing in time with his stride. "They'll have told you I'm a cutthroat and a warlock and that I've sold my soul to the Devil." He shrugged. "I know well enough what is said about me." 

Eligius said nothing. His mind was on the hearth in the manor and Lupe's firm and loving hand, and forlorn, gentle Dolores.

Cocodrillo continued. "Whatever you've heard, I can assure you that my reputation surpasses my reach. If I had done but half of what they say I would be the greatest man in the New World. Never mind the Aztec priest-kings or Guayana Capac in his hidden stone palace. But truth is merely a notion, yes? Tell me, Eligius, what do you believe?

Eligius was too dispirited to answer.

Cocodrillo leaned forward against the steepening slope. "Let me ask you," he said, " have you heard of La Seca?" 

The name brought Eligius's heart to his throat. The name was part of the Cocodrillo legend. Eligius had first heard it mentioned in a whispered conversation between Lupe and Maximo, shortly after Maximo had returned from a voyage to Caracas. The half-heard mumblings between them suggested that La Seca was a remote fishing village on the island of Dominica. La Seca's people, mostly indigenous, were good Catholics and proud Spanish citizens. Because of this, the story went, when El Cocodrillo's barque, La Deriva, appeared one day in the little harbor, the good people had immediately dispatched a messenger to Grenada to inform the Spanish garrison of the whereabouts of the Carribean's most notorious buccaneer. Luck was not with the people though. The treachery was discovered and El Cocodrillo, in a diabolic fury, unleashed his crew upon the village. When Eligius  asked Maximo about the story later that day, the normally blunt Maximo replied, "If it must be that you learn of such things, so be it. But as I love you, hijo, you will not learn of them from me." 

Later, in the stockyard, Eligius inquired about the story from the slaves. 

It was said that Cocodrillo's men, the very men that were at that moment, following the boy up the slope, had each stocked himself with powder and shot, disembarked from their dinghies, and strolled up from the beach to the village, as casual as Sunday church-goers. The mayor of La Seca and a delegation of elders came forth to greet the men and plead for clemency. These, the pirates killed with a ragged volley. From there, they went to the threshold of each dwelling. Any men or boys they found were shot out of hand. Those who resisted were dragged into the village square, bound hand and foot, and left to lie in the scorching sun. Most of the women and children had fled to the church, where the village priest led them in exhortations to the Blessed Virgin for deliverance. They found none. The corsairs set fire to the church then lined up to form a gauntlet outside the narthex. To save powder, they wielded clubs and mattocks. When the flames grew and engulfed the little church, some inside ran out to escape the infernal heat. These, the crew fell upon, beating them until they fell, and then beating them further. It was said that the children, caught between the flames and the pitiless cudgels, gave up shrieking and huddled, solemn and silent, to await whichever demise would claim them. 

When the flame-engulfed church collapsed on the last of the refugees, the pirates turned again to the prisoners in the square: some dozen boys and young men. These they blinded, driving dirks into their eyes. Their bonds were cut and the sailors at last embarked again on their landing boats to return to La Deriva. The survivors were left to wander blindly among the ruins of their home, to stumble upon the corpses of those they had loved, to spend the last of their days grieving and contemplating the final images of their vision.

Eligius saw that Cocodrillo yet waited for an answer. He swallowed down the pain and fear in his breast. "I know of La Seca," he said.

Cocodrillo's smile was thin and touched with sadness. He cast his eyes toward the ground between them. "And do you believe what they say?" he asked.

Eligius, seeing Cocodrillo's lack of surety and sensing, anyway, that his own fate was out of his hands, felt a surge of defiance. "Is it true?" he asked.

"Truth," Cocodrillo scoffed. Behind him, Eligius heard low, mocking laughter from the vagabond horde.

Cocodrillo shook his head, then turned and continued up the slope. "The governor and his soldiers seek me out," he said. "They seek me so they might inflict their tortures upon me, to hold me to account for my many sins. And if one day I am brought to their justice, I will readily confess to whatever charges they lay upon me. But I tell you this, hijo:  no matter what infernal torments they put upon me, I will never confess that I sold my soul to any fiend in the hope of some reward. You seek truth. Well, know this: Though they torture me with their red glowing irons, I will howl to the heavens. Whatever role I have played in the cosmic drama, I never chose it. I have only played the part God thrust upon me."

The path rose steadily. Above them, the crowns of the hills seemed to glow in the sunlight.

After a time, the trail reached a rocky shelf from which one could espy all the lands that lay below them. Cocodrillo paused and turned toward Eligius. "Let us take see what we can see," he said.

Cocodrillo walked out to the edge of the rock outcropping and produced a spyglass from inside his jacket. He extended it to its full length and aimed it down at the flat fields below. He squinted through one eye, looking back along the stream that ran to the Fuentes estate. 
Eligius watched, but made no move to follow. 

Cocodrillo was a while in his inspection. But then he nodded, as if seeing in the topography some confirmation of a sad belief. He turned and extended the spyglass, eyepiece toward Eligius. "Your lesson continues," he said. "Come see."

Eligius did not move. Behind him, the vagabond horde tittered. "Too frightened to move, he is..." "Like a rat in the owl's shadow..."

Cocodrillo silenced them with a stern glance. "Come, lad, have a look," he said. He shook the spyglass at Eligius. 

Some force pushed at Eligius. He found himself stepping forward toward where Cocodrillo crouched on the rock outcropping. The spyglass hung in the space between them until Eligius's hand, seemingly of its own volition, reached out and took it.

 Cocodrillo pointed to a place along the dark ribbon of stream in the forest below. "There," he said.

Eligius held the spyglass to his eye and looked toward where Cocodrillo pointed. At first, he saw only forest, but as he watched he began to notice movement. Birds flitted among the canopy and a breeze stirred the foliage. Then, he noticed something else. People were making their way along the stream, the same way he had come earlier. A band of men moving with purpose and determination. "Papa," he gasped.

Cocodrillo whispered in his ear. "Soon enough, you will know for yourself. About choosing. About choices."

To be continued...

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Read Part X here. 
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Read Part XIII here. 
Read Part XIV here. 
Read Part XV here.  
Read Part XVI here. 
Read Part XVII here. 
Read Part XVIII here.